Get Your Life Together Before Dating

About the Author Shane Glendon Cameron

Why This Book — and Why Listen to Me Everything in this book comes from lived experience, not theory. I didn’t arrive at these conclusions by reading blogs or repeating popular talking points. I arrived here by building businesses, losing businesses, rebuilding from the ground up, making expensive mistakes, fixing them, and doing the work repeatedly—when it was uncomfortable, inconvenient, and unpopular. My background spans multiple disciplines that most men are told to keep separate: money, discipline, systems, dating, and relationships. The truth is, those areas are not separate at all. They are deeply connected—and when one is broken, the others usually collapse with it. Business, Money, and Systems I’ve spent years building and operating businesses, learning firsthand how money actually works—not in theory, but in practice. I’ve had to: Create income from scratch Manage cash flow under pressure Make payroll decisions Deal with financial instability Rebuild discipline after failure That experience taught me something most men never learn: confidence without stability is fragile. You cannot lead a relationship, a household, or a future if your life is financially chaotic. This book reflects that reality. It does not encourage men to “fake it till they make it.” It teaches them to build real foundations first. Disruptive Mail and the Reality of Male Struggle Through Disruptive Mail and years of direct communication with men, I’ve had a front-row seat to the real issues men face—issues that are rarely discussed honestly. I’ve watched men: Chase women while avoiding responsibility Confuse attraction with commitment Avoid discipline but demand respect Want results without structure Sabotage good relationships through fear and inconsistency I’ve also watched what happens when men finally stop lying to themselves and start doing the work. The change is not subtle—it’s dramatic. This book was shaped by thousands of conversations, questions, mistakes, and patterns that repeat over and over again. Teaching Men How to Be Successful With Women — Correctly Most dating advice focuses on tactics: what to say, how to text, how to escalate, how to avoid rejection. That approach is incomplete. What actually determines success with women is: How stable you are How disciplined you are How clearly you communicate How well you handle pressure How consistent you are over time I’ve taught men how to improve their outcomes with women by fixing themselves first, not by gaming the process. The men who succeed are not the ones with the best lines—they are the ones with the strongest foundations. This book reflects that philosophy. It does not teach manipulation. It does not teach shortcuts. It does not teach fear-based dating. It teaches intentional dating, grounded masculinity, and long-term thinking. Why This System Works This system works because it is integrated. It doesn’t separate: Money from confidence Discipline from attraction Structure from freedom Sex from communication Dating from long-term outcomes It forces alignment. You stabilize your life. You build discipline. You raise your standards. You date intentionally. You communicate clearly. You choose wisely. When those pieces are in place, everything else becomes simpler. Who This Is Not For This book is not for men looking for: Tricks Validation Shortcuts Blame Or excuses It is for men who are ready to take responsibility for their outcomes—and are willing to do the work required to change them.